You are never prepared for death especially your mother’s.  This is a BIG one. I approached this situation as I do any big challenge by developing a strategy.  I asked my coach for help and she suggested I read Good Grief, this month’s recommended reading. This book paints a picture of a colorful array of feelings you can experience ranging from guilt to anger to depression […]

I shouldn’t have brought the white purse, I thought to myself, as I looked at the gear of another couple who were also beginning this 2 week bike trip across Cambodia. They had backpacks with water bottles, granola bars, electrolyte tablets, hand sanitizer, walking sandals, sun visor, and sunscreen. A fellow female biker complimented me on my white […]

How do we face the holidays and find some peace in a fearful and scary world? With all the recent attacks abroad and in the California and Colorado, the media is reporting that everyone in the USA has become afraid, beyond just people like me who live in a big city like New York that has experienced terrorist […]

I hate that saying “don’t sweat the small stuff”.  I know it means not to get tangled up in your knickers as the British say, and therefore, we shouldn’t get worked up on being stuck in the subway for 15 minutes or being practically knocked over on the street by someone texting and walking. I can let […]

Want more influence? Contrary to what you might think, small changes can yield big results!

One of my clients we will call Sam is a very confident accounting executive who prides himself on how he has built a strong team but is struggling to gain support for his new product line.  Senior executives doubt if […]

A year after being told by my coach at tennis camp that I needed to add more slime ball shots to my game for me to continue to grow as a player, I am finally starting to win more tennis matches! For those of you not familiar with the technical definition, slime balls means hitting shots […]

About 10 years ago, I started to annually attend the Fear Workshop run at Windham mountain in the Catskills to help me advance my skiing beyond the groomed intermediate trails.  I didn’t start skiing until I was an adult in my 20s and learned to ski in the northeast USA in which the sound […]

I never wanted to go to Uruguay. Rather, my dream trip was to go to Rio De Janeiro, Brazil but my husband thought Montevideo, Uruguay sounded interesting based on a 2014 NY Times article. I reluctantly agreed only on the condition we could spend half the time in Rio.

We get to the airport and […]

Striving for perfection can cloud your judgment. Remember that GEICO commercial where the horror movie characters make predictably poor decisions? One of my clients, whom I will call Betsy, is a senior level executive in a technology company and has always prided herself on striving for perfection.  This strategy has helped her move […]